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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen)
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Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no"
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Date: Tue, 30-Jul-85 10:16:41 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul 30 10:16:41 1985
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> 
> 1.  Gee, I didn't know I as so insensitive and NEVER was gentle with
> 	others feelings.... I've been fooled all these years?
> 

The next time you comfort a friend in pain by saying,
"You just WANT to feel hurt," ask him/her if s/he thought
you were being considerate and sensitive.

> 2.  I didn't know I had said that people are in FULL control of their emotions.

You said it was everyone's CHOICE.

> 3.  If to seek control is unhealthy
> 	a)  I want to meet the trained psychologist that told you this

Dr. Jackson Day, M.D. (but you can't meet him; he died last year)
Dr. Robert Nicholson (psychologist) (somewhere in Jackson, Miss.)
Dr. John Wilms, M.D., Purdue University.

It's dealing with the emotions in an appropriate fashion
that is desirable, NOT talking yourself out of them.

> 	b)  I think you just put ALL psychologist/psychiatrists
> 		out of work, I wonder if they know that.

Nope--there's a lot more to be done with feelings even if
you let them be.  Some self-actualization teachers may be
out of work, though. . .

> 			Gypsy (Julie Hoff)  ....ihnp4!ihuxa!hoff

Pooh

pooh@purdue-ecn-cb.ARPA   pur-ee!pooh

And I find it kind of funny,
  I find it kind of sad. . .


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