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From: mraspuzzi@kl2116.DEC (Michael Raspuzzi)
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Subject: Re: Question of the hour. (good :-))
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Date: Tue, 30-Jul-85 15:07:52 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul 30 15:07:52 1985
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>This is the part of the game I hate the most -- trying to guess what is
>on the other person's mind. If I make a move and it catches the person
>off guard I'm afraid I might ruin what otherwise may have been a very
>pleasant evening/afternoon/weekend. In an effort to hold on to what I
.
.
>So I'm afraid I don't make "the move" too often -- only once that I can
>think of. And I'm glad when somebody else does because it ends the
>tension.  (Or when someone clearly states, "if you make a move on me
>I'll slap you silly"). And since I'm too (chicken/sensitive/stupid) to
>make the move myself I have to give credit to those who do -- though
>they may be destined for more slaps or astonished looks they may also
>be destined for greater rewards.
 
I think the fear of "making the move" stems mostly from lack of
communication between the 2 individuals involved. I am a fairly
shy person but a woman doesn't have to rip her clothes off and
throw me on the bed as a subtle hint of what she has in mind. If
there is any magic present, both people should be able to pick up
subtleties from one another. Don't be afraid to gaze into her eyes
for a lengthy period of time. Looking into each other's eyes can
tell a lot about you. I could sit and stare into someone's eyes all
night (especially if I am very fond of them).
 
But why this pressure on "making the move"? Do you expect sex from
every woman you date? What ever happened to just going out as friends?
I hope that the sexual revolution hasn't totally confused me to the
point where I have to expect something to happen everytime I date
someone. I think society and the media have over-emphasized sex.
 
Mike Raspuzzi
DEC Software Specialist
ARPA: mraspuzzi%kl2116.dec@decwrl.arpa
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