Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site utcsri.UUCP Path: utzoo!utcsri!ray From: ray@utcsri.UUCP (Raymond Allen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Clearing up "responsibility for emotions" Message-ID: <1302@utcsri.UUCP> Date: Thu, 1-Aug-85 12:30:10 EDT Article-I.D.: utcsri.1302 Posted: Thu Aug 1 12:30:10 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 1-Aug-85 12:44:32 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> <1357@pyuxd.UUCP> Reply-To: ray@utcsri.UUCP (Raymond Allen) Organization: CSRI, University of Toronto Lines: 34 Summary: In article <1357@pyuxd.UUCP> rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) writes: > >2. However, I still take issue with the notion that anyone who doesn't employ > this line of thinking is "responsible" for not doing so, or is doing so > "by choice". Precisely because this technique of handling one's emotions > is a LEARNED technique, and not one that is obvious to people who have been > led to believe just the opposite about their emotions and their options. > >I felt I should put all this down on "paper" because in reading my own articles >it seemed I was taking both sides. In a way, I am. I agree that it is >possible to do what Julie and Greg and others have talked about, but I think >they are wrong when they deny the fortuitousness of their own experience of >having learned that way of thinking. Not everyone is "lucky" enough to have >had that opportunity, and thus (in my opinion) cannot be held "responsible". > > Rich Rosen ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr Yes, this is definitely an important point. One important (to me) consequence of becoming "aware" or "self-actualized" is that one should realize that most people have not reached this same level of personal "growth". It is thus incumbent upon anyone who has to be willing to take the time to explain their personal viewpoint and philosophy to others. If you just say: "Well you just don't (or can't) understand because you don't have control of your feelings" then all you accomplish is to insult another. The greatest possible gain from gaining "control of your emotions" is that you can, hopefully, help others to become aware that they can do the same. Accomplishing this is (to me) an important part of "Becoming the Best Person You can Possible Be." Ray Allen utcsri!ray