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From: tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee)
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Subject: Re: When are you really free of your X?
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Date: Tue, 30-Jul-85 13:34:07 EDT
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>Two comments were sent to me with reference to that posting which
>I think may be relevant to general discussion... Are you really
>free when you say you are?  Am I free of my SO?  When do I know I am?

I have a comment about this, not really an answer, but an ancedote.

I, too, recently parted with an SO (actually it was about 2 months ago).
The reasons aren't important, it was a painful but friendly parting.
After about a month I called her to see about continueing our friendship
(we had known each other about 14 years before entering SOship), I just
wanted to touch base, nothing more or less.  Well, our schedules conflicted
so we didn't set anything up.  Then a week or so later she calls and says
she has got to talk to me - could I come over?  Upon meeting her message
was "I need a divorce!" - remember we were never married (although admitedly,
this was an issue, she for, me against).  She still did not feel free and
was having a difficult time being interested in other men (although the parting
wasn't initiated by either of us - it was mutual).  I don't know if she is doing
any better now, we decided we shouldn't contact each other for a coupole of
months, but I hope so.

In a sense, you are free of your XSO when you think you are (how profound|-)),
and only you can decide this (kind of like the concurrent emotions discussion).
In another sense you are never free, because every moment in your life
contributes to how you view (and how you will view) life.  

Care,
Peter B