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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Short Men
Message-ID: <318@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 30-Jul-85 12:55:07 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul 30 12:55:07 1985
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In article <246@ihlpl.UUCP> paveleck@ihlpl.UUCP (Bob Paveleck) writes:

>I have found that quite a few women, even those who aren't exceptionally
>tall, will reject shorter men right off the bat.  Although I can see
>why a great height disparity would be uncomfortable for both parties,
>...
>I'm not saying that people should change their concept of what's
>attractive in members of the appropriate sex, but I'm surprised that
>the "tall, dark and handsome" man is still the only one considered
>by many women (even those who would be considered petite).  What's
>the problem if the two people are fairly close together in height?
>Are shorter men considered less masculine (however you choose to define
>that term) than the "tall, dark and handsome" group?  ...

I've known tall men/women who were attracted to tall women/men and tall
men/women who were attracted to short women/men. I've also known a lot
of people who could give a hoot about the height of their partners. We
all have a tendency to generalize from our own experiences, but I
think that making assumptions about our desireability based on certain
physical characteristics can lead us to approach encounters with
potential new friends/lovers in a nonproductive way. Listen to Joe,
who's 5'4" in his platform shoes:

"Gee, I went after tall women for six months, and got shot down every
time. Then I decided to go for women my own height and didn't have any
better luck. Maybe most women just don't like short guys."

Joe doesn't realize that the women he's met are uncomfortable when he
asks them out because he projects his own discomfort as he 'pops the
question.' If you think you're undesireable you ARE undesireable.
	
>a shorter guy do to make up for his lack of height (assuming that he
>is just as clean, pleasant, intelligent, polite, etc. as a 6-footer)?

You don't "make up" for what you are. The first step toward meeting
people and forming close bonds with them is to decide that you LIKE
YOURSELF the way you are, and that you're your own best friend. If you
approach life with that attitude you'll project a positive fun
attitude to those around you and realize that people like to spend
time with you because you're fun to be around or interesting to talk
to, and not because you're built like Arnold Schwarzenegger or tall and
handsome like Warren Beatty or play the guitar like Eddie Van Halen
:-).
                            -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly