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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: marriage |= (necessarily) commitment
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Date: Thu, 1-Aug-85 13:17:16 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug  1 13:17:16 1985
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CHUCK FERRARA
>>>But, who stays home to raise the kids? Somebody has to do it. Unfortunately,
>>>this means one partner must give up a career much too often. Children need

BETH KATZ
>>Who says you must have kids?

CHUCK FERRARA
>I didn't mean to imply that you must have kids. It's just one of many
>hypothetical situations that confronts married couples much more often
>than "live ins".

Adrienne Regard:

Just why is this a situation that confronts married couples more often than
"live ins"?  Surely we don't suppose that it is the marriage that creates
the kids, (or living in the cabbage patch).

One of the suppositions about marriage that is often imposed upon the
couple is that marriage somehow means the question of parenting arises,
when non-marriage means the question will never arise.  Neither of these
suppositions are true.  Marrying someone is creating a certain kind of
relationship between two adult people.  Having kids is creating a certain
kind of relationship between adults and children.  They may correlate,
but they are NOT synonomous.