Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ames.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!qantel!dual!ames!barry From: barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no" Message-ID: <1064@ames.UUCP> Date: Wed, 31-Jul-85 18:16:57 EDT Article-I.D.: ames.1064 Posted: Wed Jul 31 18:16:57 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 3-Aug-85 02:32:16 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> Organization: NASA-Ames Research Center, Mtn. View, CA Lines: 31 >>> My first reaction is <--- from Greg Woods >>> to say "suffer if you want to" or in some more stubborn cases, "suffer >>> if you insist upon it because you seem to believe that you *have* to feel >>> bad about this", but that sounds very cold, which I'm really not... >> >> Your right, Greg, it does sound cold. I will agree that a strong person has >> the ability to control her/his emotions, but I am not sure it is a wise per- >> son that does so. >> Bob Bruck >> NBI Inc. Boulder, Co. >> (hao | allegra | ...)!nbires!bob > > I need this book or this person who has told you that control of >emotions is not healthy. I've got 40+ books on the shelf behind me >right now that says it is healthy and 3+ psychologists at my disposal >that will agree. If you have source, PLEASE post/e-mail the title/name. > > Gypsy (Julie Hoff) ...ihnp4!ihuxa!hoff Did Bruck say his opinion came from a book? Or from someone else? Why the emphasis on supporting authority from one who is self-actualized? The above looks like one more case of one side taking "control of emotions" to mean controlling the behavior that emotions can engender, while the other side takes it to mean suppression or denial of the feelings, themselves. Is this a real debate, or a misunderstanding? - From the Crow's Nest - Kenn Barry NASA-Ames Research Center Moffett Field, CA ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- USENET: {ihnp4,vortex,dual,nsc,hao,hplabs}!ames!barry