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From: greenber@timeinc.UUCP (Ross M. Greenberg)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: BEING RESPONSIBLE
Message-ID: <383@timeinc.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 1-Aug-85 18:40:53 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug  1 18:40:53 1985
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In article <765@ihuxa.UUCP> hoff@ihuxa.UUCP (GYPSY) writes:
(ken perlow writes):
>> Spontaneity, like virginity, is much easier to lose than to regain.
>> ken perlow
>
>Why do you have to loose your spontaneity when you are able to choose
>your emotions?  You can still choose to feel the happiness, the sadness,
>the generousity, the empathy,.... you can choose all these things!
>(Isn't it great!)  

No. In order for you to control (or choose) your emotional intensity,
you have to "buffer" it. When you do that, you lose spontaneity.
I can't seriously believe that a person who chooses what to feel and
what not to feel could ever feel the spontaneity of *true* anger,
or *true* lust.  It is filtered, massaged, and otherwise changed.
THEN the self-actualized person feels it. Only a portion though.

Remember the old expression "count to ten before losing your temper"?
Ever wonder what that was for?



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