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From: sdyer@bbncc5.UUCP (Steve Dyer)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.motss
Subject: Re: "The Invisible Partners"
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Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 10:25:58 EDT
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[let's move this discussion insofar as it relates to gay people,
wholly to net.motss]
> > Many gays have no problem integrating their masculine sides
> > into their lives... or allowing their feminine sides to be a major portion
> > of their lives.  Oh, some gays have problems (like, "I'm gay, I guess I have
> > to be a hairdresser"), ...   [BROWER]
> 
> Question:  what about the reverse?  ("I fit the gay stereotype, I guess I
> have to be gay.")  

Rich, this is a pet notion of yours which I've heard you express to me
before in private mail, and at least three individual times during this
last discussion.  I have to admit that while I wouldn't dismiss this out of
hand, it simply doesn't jibe with the experience of the gay people I know,
including myself: that is, discovering one's affectional preference is very
much an internal process which is ultimately expressed in external behavior,
and not so much an example of being "convinced" or misled based on one's
perception of the common stereotypes.
-- 
/Steve Dyer
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