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From: roxy@timeb.UUCP (Roxanne Clinton)
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Subject: Re: Mike O'Brien on 'human potentialists'
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Date: Wed, 31-Jul-85 16:06:08 EDT
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Rich and Mike bring up interesting points. I've had to re-examine
my feeling about this topic and I've still come back to the firm 
conclusion that I refuse to be responsible for others feelings.

Imagine the kind of burden I would have to bear if I felt responsible
for everyone's feelings! I'd like to know where you draw the line
when taking on this kind of responsibility, do you limit it to family
and close friends, or do you include your co-workers too. 
"Joe my afternoon was all f**ked up 'cuz you did'nt sit with me
lunchtime" "Geez, Joe I'm sorry..If I had known..If I had......"
This taking responsibility stuff sounds so magnanimous. 

I know that just as I determine my future, I am responsible for
however I view a situation (PLEASE, no net.religion/philosophy
flames on determining destiny/futures!). I simply will not allow
myself to be at the hands of anybody that comes along, nor will
I sit back and allow someone to accuse me of making them feel
angry/lousy, etc. I've had a very good friend accuse me of messing
up her and her friends *entire* night because I had cancelled out on
them at the last minute. While it could be true that I should have
given advance notice, or that I should have made more of an effort
to go, the point is I didn't. Does that make me responsible for
the enjoyment/lack of of everyone involved that evening??

Where does your responsibility end and thiers begin??

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					Roxanne Clinton
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