Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oliven.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!oliveb!oliven!rap From: rap@oliven.UUCP (Robert A. Pease) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no" Message-ID: <384@oliven.UUCP> Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 17:47:39 EDT Article-I.D.: oliven.384 Posted: Fri Aug 2 17:47:39 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 4-Aug-85 08:26:47 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> Organization: Olivetti ATC; Cupertino, Ca Lines: 25 >I believe that emotions DO originate in ourselves. The spark that sets them >off however is external and basically beyond our control. But once the emotion >is sparked (a purely reflex action which no human can totally over-ride) from >then on it is TOTALLY and COMPLETELY up to the individual to decide how much >that emotion will affect them. No, the spark that sets them off is our reaction to the external event and that reaction is not beyond our control. However, I do agree with you that it is up to the individual to decide how much that emotion will affect them. >However, if a person chooses to >accept ones emotions as purely human and natural, then s/he can then learn from >the experience how to better prevent harm to themselves AND OTHERS when in the >future that emotion crops up again. I think that this is an important thing that we may not realize in this discussion. These emotions that we are talking about controlling are very normal natural things. They are not bad or good. As the saying goes, Its okay to be depressed once in a while. Its not okay to stay there. (I just wanted to point this out.) -- Robert A. Pease {hplabs|zehntel|fortune|ios|tolerant|allegra|tymix}!oliveb!oliven!rap