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From: rap@oliven.UUCP (Robert A. Pease)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Question of the hour and choices.
Message-ID: <386@oliven.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 20:02:08 EDT
Article-I.D.: oliven.386
Posted: Fri Aug  2 20:02:08 1985
Date-Received: Sun, 4-Aug-85 08:27:38 EDT
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> In article <1407@hammer.UUCP> seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy) asks about the
> propriety of public invitations, especially if they represent the beginning
> or a significant change in a relationship:
> >...
> >A:	"Hey Cutie, whatcha doin' tonight?  How 'bout dinner?"
> >B:	"Sorry, I'm having dinner with 'C'"  < kisses 'C' >
> >A:	"Oh."  < slinks away red-faced >
> 	^^^^^
> 	WRONG RESPONSE;
> Suggested improvement:
> A:	"Fine, bring C.  If you're busy tonight, why don't you both
> 		come by tomorrow?"
> 	(This happened to me.  Many times.)
> ----------------------------------------------------------------------
>     On a first-date basis, you have to take in stride the possibility
> of someone else being in the picture.  Some of my best friends are
> couples (married or otherwise) I met when I asked the woman out.  Why
> should that be embarrassing?
> [Oded Feingold]

This is exactly the kind of thing that I have been trying to  find  as
an  example.  Oded  has  turned  around  a  situation of rejection for
whatever reason and found something good in it.  As a result, I'll bet
he  doesn't  feel  anything  near the unhappiness of being rejected as
other people might.  He didn't do this without haveing chosen  to  and
as  a  result,  he  has  owned  up to his responsibility regarding his
emotions.
-- 

					Robert A. Pease
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