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From: hammond@steinmetz.UUCP (Steve Hammond)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: When are you really free of your X?
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Date: Thu, 1-Aug-85 10:05:15 EDT
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>Two comments were sent to me with reference to that posting which
>I think may be relevant to general discussion... Are you really
>free when you say you are?  Am I free of my SO?  When do I know I am?

I think that you are free of your XSO when you can look back on the
relationship and remember the good times without that gut wrenching
pain you experienced after the breakup.  After a recent breakup I tried
that old "date anything that moves" philosophy.  I found myself somewhat
distracted from the situation but it entirely backfired.  I was still
comparing my current date to my XSO and getting more and more bummed.
I finally took some time out and just sort of did some deep feeling
and reflection.  That was not easy and in fact very painful.  But...
now I have learned to be **really** thankful that I have her as a
best friend.  Sure I regret the fact that our paths in life are not
going side by side.  It has been 2 months since our split and I just
came to this whole realization a couple of days ago.  I will always
love her but now I can keep things in perspective.  

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  Steve Hammond   arpa: hammond@GE   uucp: {...edison!}steinmetz!hammond