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From: stern@steinmetz.UUCP (Harold A. Stern)
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Subject: Re: side-issue on a side-issue
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Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 15:54:25 EDT
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> In article <6394@ucla-cs.ARPA> mccolm@ucla-cs.UUCP writes:
> >If this is borne out in general (biiiig stretch), does this mean that the
> >socially acceptable men-do-the-asking-and-women-do-the-answering is not only
> >not the only way things can happen, but actually less preferable than the
> >reverse?  Are the mating games among humans screwed up at so basic a level?
> 
> How often, really, have you been "surprised" (as opposed to "insecure")
> about the signals you read from either men or women?  Seems to me that if
> you are insecure about the signals, then you ask (male or female).  And
> there are a few people who are no good at all in expressing themselves, so
> once again you ask, male or female.  But, on the whole, is it really that
> difficult?

Rarely, and no. As one of the "men-who-do-the-asking", I only once, out
of all the relationships in my life, actually had to "ask her out." All
other times, it was just understood that we both liked/cared for/wanted
each other, and any asking-answering would have been superfluous. If you
can't tell beforehand what her answer will be, then it'll probably be no.

-harold stern
 long island

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