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From: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Mike O'Brien on 'human potentialists'
Message-ID: <404@azure.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 3-Aug-85 21:50:48 EDT
Article-I.D.: azure.404
Posted: Sat Aug  3 21:50:48 1985
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Reply-To: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen)
Organization: Tektronix, Beaverton OR
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Summary: 

In article <83@timeb.UUCP> roxy@timeb.UUCP (Roxanne Clinton) writes:
>I've had a very good friend accuse me of messing
>up her and her friends *entire* night because I had cancelled out on
>them at the last minute. While it could be true that I should have
>given advance notice, or that I should have made more of an effort
>to go, the point is I didn't. Does that make me responsible for
>the enjoyment/lack of of everyone involved that evening??
>
>Where does your responsibility end and thiers begin??

That is a question that can never be answered.  Because it depends on the
situation, the people involved, etc., etc., etc.  The factors are just to 
numerous to list.

However, I think you should distinguish between "responsible" amd "TOTALLY 
responsible".  I would say that you may have been ONE of the causes of there
bad evening (which isn't to say that it wouldn't have been bad in the first
place), but you certainly weren't the only one.  



This whole discussion on responsibilties and such has certainly caused me to
re-evaluate my belief structures.  The funny thing is is that I still believe
essentially the same thing.  That one CAN control ones REACTIONS to an 
emotional situation (whether this is benifitial is up to the situation of
course) but that one does not nescessarily have too.  It is not "wrong" to
let your emotions take over for a while (but in certain situations it can
be very dangerous (to you and to others)).

Thanks for an enlightening week.

Life,
  Love,
    Laughter,
      and Hope,

	Chris Andersen
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