Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site pyuxd.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!pyuxww!pyuxd!rlr From: rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Clearing up "responsibility for emotions" Message-ID: <1425@pyuxd.UUCP> Date: Mon, 5-Aug-85 19:47:50 EDT Article-I.D.: pyuxd.1425 Posted: Mon Aug 5 19:47:50 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 6-Aug-85 12:44:44 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> <1357@pyuxd.UUCP> <1302@utcsri.UUCP> Organization: Whatever we're calling ourselves this week Lines: 26 > Yes, this is definitely an important point. One important (to me) > consequence of becoming "aware" or "self-actualized" is that one should > realize that most people have not reached this same level of personal > "growth". It is thus incumbent upon anyone who has to be willing to > take the time to explain their personal viewpoint and philosophy to > others. If you just say: "Well you just don't (or can't) understand > because you don't have control of your feelings" then all you accomplish > is to insult another. > > The greatest possible gain from gaining "control of your emotions" > is that you can, hopefully, help others to become aware that they can > do the same. Accomplishing this is (to me) an important part of "Becoming > the Best Person You can Possible Be." > Ray Allen utcsri!ray I agree with one minor exception. The use of the term "most people have not reached this same level of personal growth" has a very condescending ring to it, if you think about how it would sound to those "most people" people. I know a lot of people say "Well, I'm not responsible for your feelings", but remember, you're talking to someone who hasn't learned what you (generic you) have learned, and if your goal really is to help the other person, realize that such statements are perceived as strongly negative. -- "Meanwhile, I was still thinking..." Rich Rosen ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr