Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site utcsri.UUCP Path: utzoo!utcsri!ray From: ray@utcsri.UUCP (Raymond Allen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Hurting the other by a "no" Message-ID: <1310@utcsri.UUCP> Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 14:02:22 EDT Article-I.D.: utcsri.1310 Posted: Tue Aug 6 14:02:22 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 6-Aug-85 15:29:52 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <591@unc.UUCP> <1397@pyuxd.UUCP> Reply-To: ray@utcsri.UUCP (Raymond Allen) Organization: CSRI, University of Toronto Lines: 50 Summary: In article <1397@pyuxd.UUCP> rlr@pyuxd.UUCP (Rich Rosen) writes: > >You know, what I recall of the notion of a self-actualized person was someone >on the order of a Jesus, a Buddha, or a Gandhi, a state very few people >could possibly attain, a state of self-assuredness and confidence and lack >of need for external approval or acceptance often aspired to but rarely >achieve. I also seem to remember that a conclusion you could draw is that >anyone who called themselves self-actualized probably wasn't. (No offense, >Julie.) > [Enter nitro-aided, fuel-injected, wombat-mangling, flame-thrower mode] That statement is, so far as I'm concerned, one of the greatest, most insidious lies that I've ever read. Jesus, Buddha, and Gandhi were all HUMAN. Thus they all had the same intrinsic human potential that is present in ALL humans. (Whether this applies to people who are mentally handicapped is a debatable point -- but don't forget that many people who are "disadvantaged" realize one *hell* of a lot of the potential that they do have.) Everyone can (not will, but can) develop themselves to the point where they can become self-actualized. The most important thing that a person must realize is that such a state exists and that it is possible for them to attain it. I'm so fed up of people saying that "you can't do this" or "that is a stupid idea" that I simply tune out when such negativisim is present. FUNDAMENTAL RULE #4: If you can conceive an idea in your imagination then it is possible for you to attain it. If you did not have the potential to do so then you would not be able to conceive of the idea in the first place. The reason so few people become self-actualized is that they are (currently) unable to understand the exact nature of the concept. I have tried to explain it myself to many people. I can tell that they just simply cannot (yet) understand me. Maybe I'm a lousy explainer but I've been told the opposite by many people -- while discussing other subjects. Ok, enough ranting and raving. I want all of you out there in net-land to stop thinking about what you CAN'T do, and to start thinking about what you WANT to do. > >Providing the minimum daily adult requirement of sacrilege... > Rich Rosen ihnp4!pyuxd!rlr I can't think of anything witty to say at a time like this. Ray Allen utcsri!ray