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From: susan@vaxwaller.UUCP (Susan Finkelman)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Who's watching the kids?
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Date: Thu, 18-Jul-85 10:55:09 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 18 10:55:09 1985
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> Typically the woman takes off first, because she bore the child/feeds
> the child.  Then we get in the rut of the couple deciding not
> to take that turn they'd talked about.  I think the taking turns solution
> is a VERY GOOD solution.... but far too often the couple agrees ahead
> of time, but when it comes to the change, the man isn't so interested
> in giving up work, and the woman is too interested in not upsetting
> the marriage, so they don't. Myself, I think I'd just go ahead
> and get the job anyway and force the husband to decide between himself
> and the baby.  Yep, I'd put me ahead of the welfare of the baby.  
> Enough of this shit about the woman always having to choose between
> herself and the baby!  I say to women... You choose yourself.  Let
> your man do that choosing.  If he chooses to put the kid in a
> day care center instead of quitting his job, let that be on his
> head!
> 
> -- 
> Julia Harper
> [ihnp4,ariel]!mtung!jdh

It's not all that simple.  I am not sure life ever is. 
One chooses, one hopes, for the greatest good of the family of which
one is voluntarily a part.  Fortunately it is possible to choose not
to have children.  I recommend that option to people (men included!) who
value their careers more than their families.

  Susan Finkelman  {zehntel,amd,fortune,resonex,rtech}!varian!susan