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From: sophie@mnetor.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
Newsgroups: net.motss
Subject: Re: Bisexuality
Message-ID: <1880@mnetor.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 26-Aug-85 11:03:56 EDT
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Posted: Mon Aug 26 11:03:56 1985
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Reply-To: sophie@mnetor.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
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Summary: 

In article <294@sdcc13.UUCP> ps101@sdcc13.UUCP (ps101) writes:
>    I feel that although it is possible to be bisexual the major
>problems that these people encounter are 
>	1) Pressure to choose between gay and straight,
>	2) The assumption on most peoples part that bisexuality
>precludes the possibility of a long-term manogamous relationship,
>	3) That few organized support groups exist that recognize
>and support this group.

I don't really understand point #1.  Unless one assumes that relationships
will be stereotypical, the pressure to choose between gay and straight is
simply pressure to choose (or not) between different individuals, i.e.
pressure to choose between monogamy or not.  I think that if one is not
satisfied with either the "gay" or "straight" life, then maybe this simply
means that one is not satisfied with the individuals that have come to
represent this life.

I don't think that my life would be THAT different if my partner was a
woman rather than a man.  I'd have new worries: being accepted by society,
how to have children.  I'd also be rid of certain other worries: birth
control, wondering whether inequalities in our relationship are sex-based.
I think that the main difference in the relationship would be because I'd
be with a different person rather than with a person of a different sex.
One would hope that most of the joys and struggles inherent in a relationship
have more to do with the personalities of the people involved than with
their sexes.

This discussion in net.motss puzzles me somewhat.  How easily factionalised
people can become!  one would think, that since homosexuals have had such
a hard time explaining to heterosexuals that *really* people are pretty
much the same, no matter what their sexual orientation is, that they would
apply this reasonning to another group of people with a different sexual
orientation.  Yet I hear some claims of not "trusting" bisexuals, of
bisexuals being in both "camps".  Not trusting what?  what camps are we
talking about?  is there a war going on here between homosexuals and
heterosexuals with bisexuals as double-spies?  is that what love is all
about for some of you?  give us a break!
-- 
Sophie Quigley
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