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From: chu@lasspvax.UUCP (Clare Chu)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: living alone
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Date: Sun, 25-Aug-85 10:34:49 EDT
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In article <1828@reed.UUCP> purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) writes:
>
>	I know that I posted something about this before, but I'm
>intrigued. Is the general concensus out there that living alone is
>unnatural, or at the very least, not preferable? I lived with two men
>last year (in a three bedroom apt. - nothing kinky). They are both good
>friends, but I do prefer living alone. I do like people, and I like
>having people around, but I do prefer to have my own place. What's more,
>I plan on living alone, barring financial necessity to do otherwise, for
>a long long time. Does anyone think this is "unnatural"? I mean, does
>anyone out there think that it is really abnormal to not want to get
>married, or live with anyone ever? And if so, then why? I don't have any
>qualms about marriage in general, but why does society seem to view
>someone who has never married/lived with someone as being possibly, "not
>emotionally well" or at the very least, deprived? Most of the people
>that I know want to get married someday. I, on the other hand, would be
>most happy living alone all the time. Now, sleeping alone all the time
>is a different story...
>
>	cheers -
>
>	elizabeth g. purtell
>
>	(Lady Godiva)

  Living alone to me is not unnatural just scary.  I had a single room
in our dorm last year and I found that I have more trouble getting to
sleep without a roommate.  In Ithaca there are always storms and howling
winds and at night if I don't feel the presence of another human being
I wake up scared or have nightmares.  This may sound strange coming from
a college student, but I never used to get scared at night at home or
when I had a roommate--even one who didn't get along with me.  Last night
I had another scary dream and when I woke up I couldn't get back to
sleep.  I seriously thought about going down the hall and sleeping on
the floor in my friend's room but I decided it'll be stupid.  My mother
was widowed last year and has to live alone so I'm afraid that even if
I get married I'll end up living alone someday.  I think I'd move into
a retirement community first and get a roommate.  I can't wait until
my roommate moves in--should be anyday now.  I also hope that my boyfriend
won't take me to anymore vampire movies like Fright Night.  I called him
up at 6:00 a.m. (he was up studying for the Boards anyway) just to tell
him that I was scared and remember in the movie when the clocks hit 
6:00 and the vampire killer says to the vampire, you're out of time...
Now that I think about it I was never scared at night when I was in
California even though I lived in an empty house for a month (house
sitting) and the windows wouldn't even lock, but that was before I
went to any vampire and zombie movies.  Could anyone explain why guys
like to take poor unsuspecting girls (er female-types) to horror movies?
Quite a few guys didn't get to go out with me because they kept asking
me to see Alien.  My present boyfriend got lucky because he asked me to
choose a movie on our first date and I chose Tootsie.  

So if you're brave enough to live alone my admiration...

                                              Clare