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From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Long-distance relationships
Message-ID: <1532@peora.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 26-Aug-85 09:28:39 EDT
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Posted: Mon Aug 26 09:28:39 1985
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>   Knowing CLEARLY what you want, and communicating it in an honest and
> straightforward manner, can avoid a LOT of disappointment later.

"Hi, I'm Eric, nice to meet you!  I just want you to know at the outset that
if we have an LDR, I'm not willing to move to California, though I would
be willing to move to Massachusetts, and I can only see you once a year
because that's all the vacation I have."

The problem here is that LDRs tend to evolve before you realize they are
LDRs.  Others evolve before they become the LD kind.  The human experience
does not guarantee smoothness or painlessness.

Beware of generalizing from specific successes.  Soon, I fear, I will be
compelled to speak my mind on this matter.  However, I hope I won't, since
this would make many people angry.  But as Chuqui said once, before you say
something angrily, you should think a long time; I've been thinking about
this problem for 3 or 4 months now...
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