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From: jon@boulder.UUCP (Jonathan Corbet)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living alone
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Date: Sat, 24-Aug-85 18:38:24 EDT
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Posted: Sat Aug 24 18:38:24 1985
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> Lady Godiva:
> 	I know that I posted something about this before, but I'm
> intrigued. Is the general concensus out there that living alone is
> unnatural, or at the very least, not preferable?

	When Becky left town last year, I moved into my own place with a
great deal of trepidation.  I didn't *want* to be living alone.  It only
took me about two weeks before I really appreciated it, however.  I can
play my music as loud as I want whenever I want; I set the thermostat to
the temperature I like, etc.  For the moment (important qualifier!) I do
like living alone.  I certainly don't think it is unnatural.
	But I guess the truth of the matter is that I do not want to live
alone forever.  There is something really nice about having that special
person there to brighten the place up, to cook dinner for, to wake up next
to.  That is easily worth turning my stereo down when she is trying to sleep,
or living in a house that is warmer than I would like.  It's even worth
squeezing the toothpaste tube from the bottom :-).

>                 Does anyone think this is "unnatural"? I mean, does
> anyone out there think that it is really abnormal to not want to get
> married, or live with anyone ever?

	I certainly don't.  I have a really serious need for time to myself.
Through necessity, I have learned how to obtain this time even when my
living quarters are not mine exclusively.  I make a point of being around
when she is not.  I take a hike up into the greenbelt and sit on a rock and
think.  Or I just sit in one of the other rooms and think.
	But if my need for alone time were even more severe, I can see not
wanting to live with anybody ever.

jon
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Jonathan Corbet
National Center for Atmospheric Research, Field Observing Facility
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