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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Can friendship go to HUGGING?
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Date: Mon, 26-Aug-85 14:58:25 EDT
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> 	These "misreadings" happen a lot. I think a lot of it has to do with
>the fact that women tend to show physical affection in a variety of situations,
> where is men are traditionally only physically affectionate in sexual and
> romantic encounters. 

   It goes even further than that. This is probably true IN GENERAL, but
it is also true that within each gender there is quite a lot of variability.
Some men are quite affectionate when the usual barriers are removed (which
happens primarily in groups of people who know each other well, when it
has been well-established that hugs are considered non-sexual displays of
warmth).  It is usually a good idea to make sure you are not going to be 
misunderstood before initiating hugs. As a certified Hug Therapist, I can 
attest to this. To become a certified Hug Therapist, it is only necessary
to read the Hug Therapy Book by Kathleen Keating. It is a wonderful book
that extolls the virtues of hugging and even includes an at times humorous
description of various kinds of hugs and situations that are appropriate
for each. I definitely recommend it. (It also contains the above warning
about making certain you are not going to be misunderstood).

--Greg
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