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From: amc@whuts.UUCP (Andy Cohill)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living alone
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Date: Mon, 26-Aug-85 08:43:05 EDT
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> The consensus you see on the 'healthiness' of marriage and living with
> other people is restricted, I suspect, to the younger net.singles
> crowd...
> I've earned a right to my privacy and to
> a private space I don't have to share with anyone else.
> 
>                            -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly

Just to keep things balanced, I hav lived through two 3-4 year
relationships that both ended disastrously, but I remain committed
to the idea of marriage and family. As for the 50% divorce rate that
Bill mentions, I believe it is a symptom of the "me" generation that
is interested in "instant" results; marriage requires a lot of hard
work to see the results. I just don't meet very many people willing
to do that. If it is not instant bliss, then six months after the
wedding, everyone is in divorce court.

I mentioned this in a previous posting, but I think living alone for
too long can make you self-indulgent and intolerant, and the longer
you live alone, the less likely it is that you will want to 
share your life with someone else. Although this will probably
generate some heat, I do not think love is the prime ingredient in
marraige; commitment is. And I think that is part of the divorce
problem. Love will not sustain you through the bad times, and if
that is all you have, things will fall apart, sooner or later.

Best regards,
AAndy Cohil
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