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From: schlick@reed.UUCP (Gary G Schlickeiser)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: marriage and dreams
Message-ID: <1850@reed.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 26-Aug-85 16:23:15 EDT
Article-I.D.: reed.1850
Posted: Mon Aug 26 16:23:15 1985
Date-Received: Wed, 28-Aug-85 21:02:33 EDT
References: <1082@ames.UUCP> <1847@reed.UUCP> <1849@reed.UUCP>
Reply-To: schlick@reed.UUCP (Gary Schlickeiser)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
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Summary: 

In article <1849@reed.UUCP> purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) writes:

>And with the divorce rate what it is, I think that a lot of people
>are getting married who should either have waited or should never have
>gotten married in the first place. There's too much pressure on people
>to marry either because it's the social norm or because they think that
>you need to get married to have children.  Some people really are cut
>out for marriage, and that's great. But I think that too many people get
>married for one of the above reasons, without considering all of the
>implications of marriage, and that's really sad.

I agree completely with this, people should never get married because
it is the social norm or because they want children, I think that such
marriages are doomed to failure.  It is very difficult to live with 
someone and make it work over the long haul.  There will be periods 
when the relationship is not working well and, unless one has thought
through all of the implications of and reasons for and against getting
married (or moving in with an SO etc.) in the first place, I think there
is little chance of working through the problems and making the relationship
work again.  When you are having problems it is very difficult to think
back and try to figure out why you got married in the first place, you are
too busy thinking about how rotten you feel.

					Gary Schlickeiser
					Tektronix!reed!schlick