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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living alone
Message-ID: <1726@hao.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 28-Aug-85 15:32:23 EDT
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Posted: Wed Aug 28 15:32:23 1985
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>Although this will probably
>generate some heat, I do not think love is the prime ingredient in
>marraige; commitment is. And I think that is part of the divorce
>problem. Love will not sustain you through the bad times, and if
>that is all you have, things will fall apart, sooner or later.

   This just goes to show that heat is not all this will generate. I
believe in this idea very strongly. I have been through some experiences
in the last year or so that have convinced me that I can do almost
anything I want (within reason) with sufficient commitment. And you
are right: love doesn't get you through the hard times, commitment does.
Commitment, to me, means being willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make
it work. This includes "suffering" through the inevitable bad times.
The concept most people have of "love" does not admit to there being any
bad times. This "expectation" that a love relationship doesn't include
any bad times usually leads to disappointment and failed relationships.

--Greg
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