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From: barbaraz@tektools.UUCP (Barbara Zanzig)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: marriage and dreams
Message-ID: <394@tektools.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 27-Aug-85 14:37:01 EDT
Article-I.D.: tektools.394
Posted: Tue Aug 27 14:37:01 1985
Date-Received: Thu, 29-Aug-85 22:17:48 EDT
References: <1082@ames.UUCP> <1847@reed.UUCP> <1849@reed.UUCP> <1850@reed.UUCP>
Reply-To: barbaraz@tektools.UUCP (Barbara Zanzig)
Organization: Tektronix, Beaverton OR
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Summary: 

In article <1850@reed.UUCP> schlick@reed.UUCP (Gary Schlickeiser) writes:
> someone and make it work over the long haul.  There will be periods 
> when the relationship is not working well and, unless one has thought
> through all of the implications of and reasons for and against getting
> married (or moving in with an SO etc.) in the first place, I think there
> is little chance of working through the problems and making the relationship
> work again.  When you are having problems it is very difficult to think
> back and try to figure out why you got married in the first place, you are
> too busy thinking about how rotten you feel.

Just before I moved in with my SO this summer, my mother suggested something
that could help with this.  She said to go off with a tape recorder and
make a tape containing all the things I love - and don't like so much -
about him.  I interpreted it as doing a sort of core dump of how you feel
*before* getting involved in the day-to-day nitty-gritty of life.

She suggested listening to it after a year and 5 years, and anytime I
can't remember why I love him.

I haven't done it yet, plan to do it soon, and think it's a *great* idea!

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