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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Orphaned Response
Message-ID: <1859@reed.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 28-Aug-85 05:02:02 EDT
Article-I.D.: reed.1859
Posted: Wed Aug 28 05:02:02 1985
Date-Received: Fri, 30-Aug-85 09:58:53 EDT
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Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
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Summary: 

In article <33100027@ISM780.UUCP> joan@ISM780.UUCP writes:
>
>>> [Elizabeth]
>>> I actually wish that I were more mysterious (maybe I'm more so
>>> than I think I am) because I think that it's a very sexy
>>> trait.
>
>> [Jeff]
>> I've been told that I have very intense and intriguing eyes and
>> that such mysterious men are quite attractive etc etc.
>
>          Gee, I've never cared for mysterious people.  I've always
>  felt that the goal in any relationship (friend/family/spouse)
>  should be to know the person as well as possible.  If you ask
>  me, anything that stands in the way of that goal is *bad*.

	I agree - that in a relationship people should get to know each
other. But I am initially attracted by people (men in particular) who
seem mysterious in one way or another. It gives a sense of challenge to
try and find out about them.

>       I'm not intrigued by people who don't open up.  I like to
>  know what makes somebody happy and what makes them mad.  Call
>  me a foolish child, but I've always thought that a love
>  relationship should be more of a family-type thing.  Should
>  family members be "mysterious" with each other?

	I am somewhat intrigued by and somewhat annoyed by people who 
don't open up, because I always like to get to know people. 
But I agree that in a relationship it is difficult (actually, 
I think the word "frustrating" is better here) if one of
the people has trouble or refuses to communicate their feelings and 
thoughts to the satisfaction of the other. It can cause problems and can
be frustrating to both of the people in the relationship. (If you come
over to my apartment you can see the heel marks and nail scratches from
my climbing the walls.) But I think that it's worth it to take the time
and the patience to get people like this to open up. I've always found
it to be so anyway.

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)

"Words are the source of misunderstanding."