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From: fleep@reed.UUCP (Philip Ljubicich)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Are the sexes the same?
Message-ID: <1864@reed.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 29-Aug-85 06:47:25 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 29 06:47:25 1985
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I'm a neophite net.singler so I may have missed some of the earlier
parts of this discussion so I hope that this isn't a repeat. It seems to
me that our society produces two catagories of personalities, which I
will refer to as heart to heart and head to head. 

The heart to heart type of person tends to express emotions freely (at
least to others of their type) and are fairly willing to allow others of
their type to know what will hurt them.  These people tend to be more
willing to express their emotions frequently, so they tend to release
pent-up emotions more easily than the head to head type.  This type
tends to appear more emotional and is usually emotionally stronger.
This is type seems to be dominant in women.

The head to head type of person tends not to show weakness to others of their
type.  They may be open about most of their feelings, but usually
exclude their vulnerable side from this openness (often leaving the
impression that such does not exsist, if possible).  This type is often 
proud, and would often prefer to hide weakness or problems to the point
of discomfort or injury rather than allow weakness.  This type tends to
try to deal with most significant emotional problems internally, thus
often having bad feelings bottled up inside with no release.  This type
tends to appear externally tougher but is in fact weaker.  This type
seems to be dominant in men.

This is not to say that there aren't men who I would categorize as heart
to heart or women as head to head, on the contrary, it is fairly common
for people to cross the traditional lines.  It seems to me, though, that
sometimes these heart to heart men and head to head women tend have
trouble being accepted by the more traditional members of their same
sex.  I think it is because people can accept a different personality
type more easily when they have a sexual difference to which to
attribute it.

Well, that's my two cents.  Let them be well spent.


                                   See you on the other side,
                                     
                                   Phil