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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High)
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Subject: Re: Are the sexes the same?
Message-ID: <2774@ut-sally.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 29-Aug-85 21:50:04 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 29 21:50:04 1985
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In article <1860@reed.UUCP> purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) writes:
>In article <230@uwai.UUCP> luner@uwai.UUCP writes:
>>> Sometime last year I [pooh@purdue-ecn.APRA] brought up the idea that 
>>> many men and women are not aware that the opposite sex is JUST
>>> LIKE THEM.
>>
>>More to the point, do you (out there) really believe that? I'd like to,
>>but I can honestly admit that I never treat male and female friends
>>(friends at the same level of intimacy) exactly the same. 
>>
>>Any comments, or am I really just reacting to different levels of closeness
>>in friendships.
>
>[S]ocially, I would say that
>generally, although there are exceptions, men are different than women.
>What I mean by that is that because of the way children are raised
>depending on whether they are male or female, they are taught certain
>social traits, and those are hard, if not impossible, to get rid of no
>matter how "liberated" you become later in life. 

Putting my comment back into context, I did add that men
and women (in my view) have the same basic needs and wants,
but that they are taught to go about getting them and
communicating them in a different fashion according to their
gender.  I believe that's basically what you're saying,
Lady G.

>I've found myself to be more emotionally and
>intellectually compatible with men than with women, in general. 

So do I.  Of those women friends I'm close to, almost
all of THEM have more male friends than female ones too.
Any ideas as to why this is so?  What makes these types
of women more compatible?

>So I think that although genetically men and women are not
>different emotionally or intellectually, society molds most people
>enough that you can't really say that there is no difference between men
>and women. 

The point I was trying to make was that, getting back to
the things that drive both men and women, there is little
difference except in their outward manifestations, which
are moulded by society.  I have known men (and women) who
use the outward differences as an excuse for not getting to
know the person underneath--on the premise that "it's 
impossible to understand them anyway."

Cheers,
Pooh

pooh@purdue-ecn.ARPA        pur-ee!pooh
[pooh@cb.purdue.edu]

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