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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living Alone: Abnormal?
Message-ID: <1867@reed.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 31-Aug-85 18:36:25 EDT
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Posted: Sat Aug 31 18:36:25 1985
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Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
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Summary: 

In article <248@whuts.UUCP> amc@whuts.UUCP (Andy Cohill) writes:
>> Andy Cohill:
>> > >I have a better word: irresponsibility. For more closeness you get
>> > >less irresponsibility. It gets confused with "freedom" very
>> > >frequently. 
>> 
>> Elizabeth Purtell: 
>> > 	Boy, I'm glad that I read this on a day when I happened to be in
>> > fantastic mood, Andy, otherwise this probably would have made me angry.

 [I can't remember who posted this:]

>> Well, I was in a pretty decent mood, but it ticked me off considerably.
>> Also the part about how living alone makes you self-indulgent and
>> intolerant.  
[Andy:]
>Oh, brother....I was stating a g*d-d*mned opinion. I did not hold a
>gun to anybody's head and claim you had to do things my way.
>
>That is silly. I don't give a flying leap what you do with your
>life. There seems to be some sort of knee-jerk reaction here; if
>you post something at variance to the prevailing opinion, you get
>flamed instantly.

	First of all, I don't think that you stated what you did as an
opinion. If what you meant was "I think that living alone can make you
more intolerant and less responsible" that's one thing, but what you said
was that being single did not give freedom but irresponsibility,
implying that those of us who live alone and like it that way are more
irresponsible than those who don't. 
	Second - I didn't flame you. All I said was that I didn't think
that living alone made you irresponsible and that you could be married
and still be very irresponsible. You are quite welcome to state your
opinion, but if you don't state it in such a way that it comes across
that way you can expect to tick people off a little. That's just the way
the net works. You have to be very careful of your wording since facial
expressions and voice inflections don't carry well this way. But believe
me Andy, if you meant it as an opinion, then that's fine with me. You
can hold any opinion you want and I won't flame you, in fact I have good
friends who hold vastly different opinions from me in many areas, but in
return I expect you to respect my lifestyle and not assume that I'm
"irresponsible" or "intolerant" because my lifestyle differs from yours.

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)