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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living alone
Message-ID: <1872@reed.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 4-Sep-85 14:48:33 EDT
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Posted: Wed Sep  4 14:48:33 1985
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Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
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Summary: 

In article <256@whuts.UUCP> amc@whuts.UUCP (Andy Cohill) writes:

>The verse is  1 Corinthinians, Ch. 13.
>
>I tend to agree with you (that love = responsibility, commitment) 
>but have been
>taking a different view on the net because it seems that so many
>people today *do* make a distinction. The depressing thing is that
>if I agrre with you, it means that there is very little true love
>around, as evidenced by the divorce rate. I am surprised and
>bewildered by the quantity of people that have stated on the net
>that they are uninterested in long-term relationships. Maybe most of
>what passes for love these days *is* infatuation...
>
	Why are you surprised and bewildered by the quantity of people who
don't want long-term relationships? My not wanting one has nothing to do
with whether or not I'm in love, my ability to commit to someone or a
sense of responsibility. First off - I am very interested in my career
right now. Anything that would take away my concentration from that
(marriage - or even a very serious, exclusive relationship) is
definitely not what I want. Second - I want the freedom to travel and
even move when I want to. Third - I'm simply not a very monogamous
person (emotionally or physically). I am committed to my friends (SOs
and XSOs included) and would do anything for them except share my entire
life with them. 

	You know Andy - we seem to have quite a bit of trouble
communuicating, at least by this medium, so I'm not sure how much we
agree or disagree on anything - but I like you.

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)