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From: lmv@houxa.UUCP (L.VANDERBILT)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Are the sexes the same?
Message-ID: <775@houxa.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 4-Sep-85 16:57:51 EDT
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Posted: Wed Sep  4 16:57:51 1985
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> More to the point, do you (out there) really believe that? I'd like to,
> but I can honestly admit that I never treat male and female friends
> (friends at the same level of intimacy) exactly the same. I try to, but
> there seem to be, for example, certain topics or activities that are reserved 
> for one group or the other that needn't be: career discussions, personal
> problems, personal views. 
> 
> Any comments, or am I really just reacting to different levels of closeness
> in friendships.
> 
> 						/DLL
> 

I don't treat conversations with my male friends any differently than
I do my female friends.  We talk about all the same things whether
it is personal relationships, sex, jobs, family, etc..  The only time
I don't talk about the same things is when I don't feel 100% comfortable
around a person (will he understand? type of thing)  I feel if a person
is a true friend you should be able to talk about anything regardless of
the topic.  If there are topics that you can't bring up because of pride
or a sense that they aren't appropriate then I don't feel there is a true
friendship.  I think that with friends you should be able to be yourself
no matter how you really are without having to worry about what you say.
I don't think that a person's sex should make a difference on the level
of intimacy involved.  I prefer to tell things to both sexes to get
both a man's opinion on the situation and a female's view (they can
really differ).  I think this can give you a better and more overall
outlook than just always talking to the same sex about the same things.


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Lynn