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From: phil@amdcad.UUCP (Phil Ngai)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: more about hugs
Message-ID: <3539@amdcad.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 6-Sep-85 02:30:01 EDT
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Posted: Fri Sep  6 02:30:01 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 7-Sep-85 06:12:49 EDT
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Keywords: hypocrisy

I like hugs when exchanged with the right people. What I want advice
on is what to do when in a group of people and they all start hugging
each other. I want to be part of the spirit of the thing but there's
usually a few people I am not overjoyed at the idea of hugging. It's
not that there is necessarily anything wrong with them, I just don't
feel that close to them at that time. Maybe I don't know them or maybe
they're just not my kind of people. But if you single someone out
and refuse to hug them it's very awkward. So I usually just hug everyone
and feel fake. Does anyone have better ways to deal with this?

It's not just homophobia. I can enjoy hugging guys. And one of the people
I am not overjoyed to hug is clearly a hetrosexual female. It's just
a matter of how I am feeling about the person.
-- 
 The overseas Chinese are the Jews of Asia.

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