Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site ssc-vax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!ssc-vax!erik From: erik@ssc-vax.UUCP (Erik Strom) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Living Alone: Abnormal? Message-ID: <171@ssc-vax.UUCP> Date: Thu, 5-Sep-85 12:05:58 EDT Article-I.D.: ssc-vax.171 Posted: Thu Sep 5 12:05:58 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 7-Sep-85 06:57:47 EDT References: <1296@hound.UUCP> <5290001@acf4.UUCP> Organization: Boeing Aerospace Co., Seattle, WA Lines: 67 > In article <766@mcnc.mcnc.UUCP> omo@mcnc.UUCP (Julie Omohundro) writes: > > > >I have noticed that, > >in the discussion on living alone, a lot of people jued forward > >to say that they thought living alone was not abnormal, including > >a lot of people who lived alone (or had). But almost all of > >you still expressed a desire/hope/wish to live with someone else > >again some day. (Elizabeth being an exception, I believe?) I also > >live alone and plan to do so forever and ever amen. (Call me > >irresponsible |-)) I'm perfectly happy that way, but I was > >surprised at how few live-aloners had that as a long-term game > >plan. > > Yep, I am an exception. I have to admit, it made me feel good to > know that there was one other "irresponsible" person out there. I don't > know if I'm all that surprised that there are so few people out there > who want to live alone forever. It just isn't done much in our society, > for whatever reasons. What did surprise me though, is that the only > person who I've found (if memory serves me correctly) who agrees with me > is a woman (yes, I mean you Julie.) I really expected that if anyone > would feel this way it would be a man. I don't know if I can explain why > I thought that, but I did. Is there anyone else out there who thinks > that they will, or would like to, remain single forever? > > cheers - > > elizabeth g. purtell > > (Lady Godiva) I think that your'e right about the desire to live alone being more prevalent among men. From my personal experiences, I haven't known that many women who have lived alone for very long. After a while, it seems like they find a roommate of either sex, or the boyfriend starts spending a lot of nights over or vice versa. The security of having someone around instead of facing that empty lonely apartment can be tremendously important. It's especially comforting to have someone to hold you when that thunder starts shaking the windows, or when you start hearing those strange noises in the middle of the night. I think that it's quite likely that I will stay single, although I've never seriously intended to. Due to my somewhat unique interests, and rather busy schedule, it doesn't seem likely that I will ever establish a long term relationship. I'm sure that I could be a fine partner for someone, but at 30 years of age, I still haven't been able to overcome a lot of my reservations about dealing with other people. A lot of this can be attributed to my earlier roommates, some good, some OK, some bad. After 2 or 3 experiences living with others, I have gotten to appreciate being able to come home and not have to find that the toilet doesn't have to be cleaned, or having my roommate come rolling at 12:30 after a rousing drunk at the local dance emporium. Up till now, I have been able to find the support and company I've found necessary with my family and friends. This attitude of mine certainly could fit the label of 'irresponibile', but that term implies a that some sort of change in me or an apology to someone is in order, and the only people I feel that I might need to apologize to are all those lonely women out there. :-) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- He's cute, he's cuddly, he's loyal, he's brave, but he's not home, so leave your posting at the sound of the tone...... ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Erik ssc-vax!erik