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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Are the sexes the same?
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Date: Sat, 7-Sep-85 15:17:42 EDT
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In article <216@kepler.UUCP> mojo@kepler.UUCP (mojo) writes:
>
>I have noticed fascinating differences between male and female sexual
>fantasies (based strictly on reading and my own informal limited survey).
>
>Men seem to be sexually creatures of detail.  Our fantasies quite often
>include very specific little "switches" that turn us on.  A word, a piece
>of clothing, a nipple under a sweater, ... whatever, very specific.
>
>Feminine fantasys on the other hand deal much more with emotions, moods,
>and generalities.  The specifics of how your clothes came off aren't
>important.  Romance and atmosphere are.
>
>Naturally like any generality, individuals vary a great deal.  What do
>you think?

	I've also heard that women's and men's fantasies differ. Another
difference that I've heard is that men fantasise about specific people,
whereas women either fantasise about their SO, or about faceless people
or men that they create in their mind. I found that difference
interesting because I always do the former rather than the latter. 
	I found the above differences fascinating also because my fantasies
always fall into the first catagory. I couldn't care less about romance
(at least as far as my fantasies are concerned) although atmosphere
occasionally has a place, depending on the fantasy. But details are of
the utmost importance. Certain words are wonderful, and I could write a
book about clothing (capes, fishnet stockings, high heels, etc.)
although I must admit, a nipple under a sweater doesn't do much for me.
	There is something else that I'm curious about. In my fantasies how
I'm dressed, what I say, etc. is just as important to me, usually, as
how the man looks, what he says, etc. (That's what I meant by the heels
and fishnet stockings - no, seeing them on a man would not turn me on!)
I'm wondering if that's usually the case. Or if that's peculiar to men,
generally, since they concentrate on details (at least according to the
above sources) or if that's rather infrequent and I do it because my
fantasies are extremely detailed, that is, from what I've read and heard
of other people's fantasies mine usually go into more detail. This could
be because I'm the type of person that always pays great attention to
detail, or possibly because I write a lot and try to write everything,
including my fantasies, as clearly as possible. Or it could be that when
I discuss fantasies with another person they just hold back more than I
do. I have been told that I'm a bit, uh, unihibited when it comes to
sex. I've just never been able to figure out if that's a compliment or
not. ;-)

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)