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From: becky@cylixd.UUCP (Becky Bates)
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Subject: Re: to live alone or not to live alone?
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Date: Mon, 9-Sep-85 15:05:37 EDT
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> *** REPLACE THIS LINE WITH YOUR ROOMMATE ***
> Just my comments on the current discussion.
> After I moved out of my parents house, I lived with a roommate for
> 2 years.  Before moving in w/her, we did not know each other
> except to say hi at work.  When 2 people who do not know each
> other well decide to try to live together,  I think they get
> along much better than 2 people who are best friends.  I think there are
> different stages they go through.  At first you are very careful
> not to "step on anyone's toes", you keep the kitchen neat, pay
> your half of the bills faithfully, etc.  After about a year, this
> "ms/r. nice guy" attitude starts wearing down, you tend to take
> advantage of the other person, just because they are more
> familiar to you.  By my second year w/my roommate, we were both
> ready to move out and wanted to live on our own - separately.
> I have been living by myself for over a year now, and I love it!
> After my roomie moved out, I was without a tv or telephone for
> about 3 weeks.  Talk about "learning to live with yourself"!
> I'm very glad I live alone, I've learned much more about how to
> get along with myself, hopefully in the future, maybe someone
> else will want to live along with me!  There are times I am
> lonely, but at those times, I am perfectly capable of going out
> w/friends or having company.  The rest of the time, I enjoy my
> solitude.  Maybe its just because I do a lot of things that don't
> require anyone else, i.e., reading, needlework, biking.
> Anyone comments?
> 
> Ann Christian
> AT&T-BL
> ihlpa!tramp

Ann I feel the same way as you. I moved out of my parents house 
about 4 years ago and lived with a friend for about 2 years and
got along pretty well.  In fact we became friends after we lived 
together for a while.  We did have our blowouts and I think openess
and honesty is very necessary to get along.  I lived by myself for 
about a year and got a little lonely and then my being alone pushed 
me to get involved and make more friends.  When my rent was going
up 60 dollars in one sprut I said "NO WAY AM I GOING TO PAY THAT". I
now live in a house with a lady much older than I and I am seeking
a roomate more compatable and my age.  I suggest to anyone out there
if they can find a roomate their own age do it.  It is not unbearable
but when you are dating people, even though the older roomate is not
around (in her bedroom), you still feel like your mother is lurking 
in the next room.  One of my boyfriends has already commented on the
fact that he does not feel like he is really alone with me when he 
comes to my house.  This is frustrating as hell!! He still lives at
home and is trying to buy a house now that he job is stable.  I think
age of your roomate is a factor to consider.  Also consider pets or
habits that the other roomate has before moving in.  If you smoke, drink
work the same hours or different hours can be factors in getting along.
Anyway living alone does have its advantages ( you can be a bum and no 
one knows, you can dance around the whole house (nude even) and there
is little chance of getting embarassed unless you see yourself in 
the mirror.  Living alone is up to the individual.  Money, safety,
and less boredom is the reason I choose to live with a roomate.
Comments are read but not necessarily accepted.

		Becky Bates
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