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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: net.personalities
Message-ID: <2869@ut-sally.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 12-Sep-85 10:20:53 EDT
Article-I.D.: ut-sally.2869
Posted: Thu Sep 12 10:20:53 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 14-Sep-85 17:38:48 EDT
References: <3258@pur-ee.UUCP> <30619@lanl.ARPA> <1749@hao.UUCP>
Reply-To: pooh@sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High)
Organization: U. Texas CS Dept., Austin, Texas
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In article <1749@hao.UUCP> woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods) writes:
>> In truth, gang, the reality of the situation is this:
>> 
>...
>> And then, let us say that you still go ahead and derange your life. Move
>> away from where you were.
>> 
>> What happens when you fall out of love? 
>
>  After making that big a commitment, why would you want to do that? 

Sigh.  Here we come back to the "everything is by choice"
school of thought.

>  And if
>you weren't willing to suffer through a few rough (even very rough) times 
>(often experienced as "falling out of love"), 

What if things are going well but the "being in love"
feeling has slipped away?  That's enough to wreck a
romantic relationship--the squabbling about wrinkled
clothes or the sudden deep religious discussions are
just a SYMPTOM of the underlying problem, not the
cause.

>then why make the commitment
>in the first place? Making the assumption that it will fail is almost sure 
>to *create* failure.  Sounds like a very self-defeating attitude to me.

Having a healthy respect for the unpredictability of
humans and life in general is far from self-defeating.


Pooh

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