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From: lpf@vaxine.UUCP (Lisa P. Fass)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: resuming birth names
Message-ID: <636@vaxine.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 30-Aug-85 17:11:01 EDT
Article-I.D.: vaxine.636
Posted: Fri Aug 30 17:11:01 1985
Date-Received: Sun, 1-Sep-85 05:07:51 EDT
Organization: Automatix, Inc., Billerica, MA
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I changed my name BACK to my maiden name after being married for four
years.  This resulted in the following comments:

1) You must be getting divorced
2) Your marriage is in trouble - see a counselor
3) What a hassle to change credit cards, license, etc. (no one mentions
this when women change their name upon marriage!)

My husband was not supportive, although now accepts it.

Why did I do this?  A minor identity crisis.  I never got used to having
someone else's name.  Now, 1-1/2 months later, it is no hassle.  I feel
like I have a much more "continuous, connected life", and my name
sounds and feels right.

I did go to court to legally change it - also very little hassle here
in Massachusetts.  The judge commented that everyone is "doing it" these
days!!

I was very lucky to have a wonderfully supportive group of fellow women
co-workers to help me deal with the negative reactions.

I also heard very interesting stories about name changes - from Europeans,
different cultures, older women who were surprisingly supportive, etc.  It
opened up a whole area of discussion and interest.  People are very attached
to names ! (as evidenced by the recent discussions on net.women)