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From: yoddy@elsie.UUCP (yoddy)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Name Changes
Message-ID: <5211@elsie.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 31-Aug-85 09:13:43 EDT
Article-I.D.: elsie.5211
Posted: Sat Aug 31 09:13:43 1985
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    I kept my own name when I got married.  I offered to either change
    names or hyphenate if (and only if) my husband would do the same.  He
    wouldn't so I didn't.

    We've had very few hassles from outside the families.  We do get
    twice as much junk mail and twice as many phone salespeople as
    a normal couple but that doesn't bother us.  AMOCO wouldn't issue
    a card in my name---the card says Kenneth Brown on the front.  I
    would find that offensive even if I'd had changed my last name.

    The only people that have had a hard time dealing with the whole
    thing are the families.  Ken's greatgrandmother refuses to deal with
    it at all.  She addresses mail to Mr. and Mrs. Ken Brown.  My
    grandmother is slowly comming around (after 3 years).  They're
    both in their 90's so I figure they've earned the right to call
    me anything they want.  The rest of the family eventually adjusted.
    It took my mom the longest--for the first 2 years of my marriage
    she addressed everything to Ken Brown and Yoddy.

    When my son was born everyone breathed a sigh of relief when
    I told them we were hyphenating the baby's last name.  I honestly
    think Ken's parents were afraid I'd insist on naming the baby
    Christopher Schwartz.  So my son is Schwartz-Brown, maybe we'll
    name the next one Brown-Schwartz just to keep the families on
    their toes.

                                     yoddy

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