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From: jcp@osiris.UUCP (Jody Patilla)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Name Changes
Message-ID: <508@osiris.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 1-Sep-85 16:23:28 EDT
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Posted: Sun Sep  1 16:23:28 1985
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> > 
> >     I kept my own name when I got married.  I offered to either change
> >     names or hyphenate if (and only if) my husband would do the same.  He
> >     wouldn't so I didn't.
> > 
> You have a 50 50 chance of winding up divorced. Those are the statistics, like
> it or not. There are many reasons for failing marriages, why do you bother to
> create a problem out of a last name.There will be many many problems that crop
> up without your help.  Serious, real, life threatening, marriage threatening,
> problems. Was life so problem free that you took a trivial issue and created a
> problem out of it at the beginning of your marriage so you could have something
> to debate about for years to come?  Good luck sister, you'll need it.

	Changing one's identity, presumably for life, is *NOT* a trivial
issue. If it were, why aren't men changing *their* names upon marriage ?
The wife's name-change is a relic of times when women were chattel,
property, and if that's how you look at your wife, then you're the one who 
has some problems. Personally, I would not want to marry a man who would not
agree to my keeping my name.
-- 
jcpatilla

"The bland leadeth the bland and they both shall fall into the kitsch."