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From: sophie@mnetor.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Name Changes
Message-ID: <1978@mnetor.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 4-Sep-85 10:39:23 EDT
Article-I.D.: mnetor.1978
Posted: Wed Sep  4 10:39:23 1985
Date-Received: Wed, 4-Sep-85 12:14:18 EDT
References: <5211@elsie.UUCP> <11302@rochester.UUCP>
Reply-To: sophie@mnetor.UUCP (Sophie Quigley)
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Summary: 

In article <11302@rochester.UUCP> ray@rochester.UUCP (Ray Frank) writes:
>> 
>>     I kept my own name when I got married.  I offered to either change
>>     names or hyphenate if (and only if) my husband would do the same.  He
>>     wouldn't so I didn't.
>> 
>You have a 50 50 chance of winding up divorced.  Those are the statistics, like
>it or not.  There are many reasons for failing marriages, why do you bother to
>create a problem out of a last name.  There will be many many problems that crop
>up without your help.  Serious, real, life threatening, marriage threatening,
>problems.  Was life so problem free that you took a trivial issue and created a
>problem out of it at the beginning of your marriage so you could have something
>to debate about for years to come?  Good luck sister, you'll need it.

What arrogance!  if it is such a trivial issue, then why didn't her
husband change his name?  one's name is an imortant part of one's
identity.  If that's not an important issue for you, then good for you,
nobody's asking you to change your name, but it is not up to you to
decide what are important issues for other people.  Also, if I remember
the original posting well, this was not a problem, only YOU perceived
it to be.  I have had similar discussions with my SOs and they all
agreed that they wouldn't like to change their names, so it was only
reasonable that I would feel the same way.  What's wrong with that?
-- 
Sophie Quigley
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