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From: jeffw@tekecs.UUCP (Jeff Winslow)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Name Changes
Message-ID: <5659@tekecs.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 3-Sep-85 14:04:13 EDT
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Posted: Tue Sep  3 14:04:13 1985
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> > 
> >     I kept my own name when I got married.  I offered to either change
> >     names or hyphenate if (and only if) my husband would do the same.  He
> >     wouldn't so I didn't.
> > 
> You have a 50 50 chance of winding up divorced.  Those are the statistics, like
> it or not.  There are many reasons for failing marriages, why do you bother to
> create a problem out of a last name.  There will be many many problems that crop
> up without your help.  Serious, real, life threatening, marriage threatening,
> problems.  Was life so problem free that you took a trivial issue and created a
> problem out of it at the beginning of your marriage so you could have something
> to debate about for years to come?  Good luck sister, you'll need it.

Can you say, "blame the woman"? I thought the idea was that if one partner 
thought there was a problem, there was a problem. How do you figure she
"created" the problem? And what makes you think they will "debate about it
for years to come"? Seems to me like you're jumping to a lot of
conclusions at once. Careful - it's a long way down if you miss.

						Jeff Winslow