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From: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Lee Gold)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Name-changing and "identity"
Message-ID: <2318@sdcrdcf.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 6-Sep-85 04:57:02 EDT
Article-I.D.: sdcrdcf.2318
Posted: Fri Sep  6 04:57:02 1985
Date-Received: Mon, 9-Sep-85 00:33:25 EDT
References: <510@osiris.UUCP> <509@lasspvax.UUCP>
Reply-To: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Lee Gold)
Distribution: net
Organization: System Development Corp. R+D, Santa Monica
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Summary: 

When I got married 16 years ago, I changed my last name to that of my
husband, partly on the grounds that I liked him a lot more than my father.
(Yeah, I suppose I could have been contrary and taken my mother's maiden
name when I got married, but somehow....)

Anyway, I have since noticed that while I feel quite comfortable at no
longer being (Miss) Lee (Ann) Klingstein but (Mrs.) Lee Gold and
answer quickly in response to this, I *Don't* answer quickly in response
to "Mrs. Gold," which I still somehow feel equals my mother-in-law, not me.

I talked to my friends (men and women) and discovered that most of them
feel uncomfortable with any honorific, especially when the first name is
dropped as well.

How do other netters feel?

--Lee Gold