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From: jamcmullan@wateng.UUCP (Judy McMullan)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Name Changes ("traditions that have evolved" disappearing)
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Date: Wed, 11-Sep-85 12:36:50 EDT
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Posted: Wed Sep 11 12:36:50 1985
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>Why doesn't the preacher say "and now the bride may kiss the groom?  
>Why is there no flower boy following the groom?
>Why is there no shower for the man, instead of a party that wrecks his brain
>for weeks?

You are living in the past.
The preacher does not say that the groom may kiss the bride,
in modern marriages between equals. Neither the bride nor the groom
wants such a thing said.

There are often young boys included in ceremonies (actually they
have been for many years -- as ring-bearers, so their "masculinity" is not
"compromised") and everyone thinks they are just as cute as the little girls.

A lot of "bridal" showers now include both the bride and the groom
and the people invited include men as well as women. I have had and/or attended
several very successful showers over the last few years which were really more
gift-giving followed by a social evening with friends of both sexes.
Lastly, the "stag" for the groom is often being omitted (because he was at the
shower) or replaced by his being taken out to lunch or dinner.

Wake up -- you are living in a changing world.

   --from the sssstickkky keyboard of JAM
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