Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 (Denver Mods 7/26/84) 6/24/83; site drutx.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!drutx!slb From: slb@drutx.UUCP (Sue Brezden) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Name Changes Message-ID: <464@drutx.UUCP> Date: Thu, 12-Sep-85 20:20:38 EDT Article-I.D.: drutx.464 Posted: Thu Sep 12 20:20:38 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 13-Sep-85 05:06:13 EDT Organization: AT&T Information Systems Laboratories, Denver Lines: 58 It seems to me that name changes are not that big a deal--either deciding to change, or not to. But then, I've changed mine twice, and it wasn't traumatic. The first time was when I got married in 1967. Back then, you just changed your name. It was asssumed. Then I found myself divorced in 1975. I kept my married name, assuming that it would be easier to have the same name as my children--for school, etc. When I remarried, I had 4 choices: 1. Keep my first married name. Not really an option--I personally wanted to forget the first marriage altogether. 2. Change back to my maiden name. This would have made us a 3-name family. Seemed too complex to me. I know how easily people and organizations screw things like that up. And I really don't consider myself as part of my parent's family anymore. 3. Make up a new name. Could have been fun. But that still makes 3 names in the family. 4. Change to my new husband's name. This at least keeps us down to two names in the family. I did number 4. My new husband could care less what I call myself. And I really don't care what others call me. A name just isn't that important. The people I care about call me by my first name, anyway. Note that I didn't have a career built on my name. In that case, I think I would have made different choices. All in all, I think you have to do whatever is most natural for you, and causes the least problems. By the way, I would advise NOT changing your name and your address at the same time. When I was married the second time, I did not change my name for several months, since we were planning on moving later. I thought "If I have to send out change notices to magazines, professional societies, credit cards and so forth, why not wait, so I only do it once?" Well, I found out why not. Very few places did it right. Some changed the name, some the address, some made up new, strange values for both of them. Two separate changes might have been easier. I have discovered that schools deal quite well with multiple name families--there are so many of us. So perhaps I should have changed back in '75. But maybe they didn't do so well back then. Susan Lee Hendrix Spence Brezden -- Sue Brezden Real World: Room 1B17 Net World: ihnp4!drutx!slb AT&T Information Systems 11900 North Pecos Westminster, Co. 80234 (303)538-3829 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Your god may be dead, but mine aren't. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~