Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site psuvax1.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!rochester!cmu-cs-pt!cadre!psuvax1!berman From: berman@psuvax1.UUCP (Piotr Berman) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: corporal punishment Message-ID: <1811@psuvax1.UUCP> Date: Mon, 23-Sep-85 05:20:01 EDT Article-I.D.: psuvax1.1811 Posted: Mon Sep 23 05:20:01 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 25-Sep-85 12:12:07 EDT References: <128@pyuxv.UUCP> <261@cylixd.UUCP> Organization: Pennsylvania State Univ. Lines: 43 > > > > Lesson: A reaction to a child's action, whenever possible should be > >right then and there. Things you WANT to have the child do should be > >rewarded, and things you DON'T WANT to have the child do should be > >punished (No, punish does not mean inflict pain) right then and there. > > > > -- G. M. Bogatko > > As a comment on this discussion, my son started something when he was a > year old that really upset me. Every time he got frustrated (and, > as anyone who has one knows, one-year-olds get frustrated a lot), he'd > bang his head on the floor. Hard. > > Our pediatrician, my mother, and all the other "experts" we turned to > assured us he would not hit his head hard enough to injure himself. > That's easy to say when you're not sitting there watching him beat > himself. We tried putting him in his crib in the other room, all those > sorts of things. He *never* got any goodies for his efforts. But the > head-banging wouldn't go away. > > So after a while, my husband decided he'd had enough. If the head-banging > wasn't hurting Jonathan, it was hurting *me*. Starting one Sunday > afternoon, every time Jonathan banged his head on the floor, he got > swatted on the bottom. Hard. ................. > charli I had a similar problem with my Jacob. Somehow, were not that much affraid (wall to wall carpet). Still, disturbing. When he was 16 months old, we spend a week of vacations in a hotel room with marble floor. Needless to say, he never tried to bang his head on the floor again. Personally, I do not want to spank, swat etc. However, when Jacob was a little above two years, he started to hit me when frustated (two years old, even loved and sweet, also may get frustrated). I responded with clapping at his palm, not to strong, but to let him feel pain. I thought that I must convey the idea that since he becomes stronger, this kind of tantrum is not appropriate any more. Again, worked fast. Still, seems that the very reason that it worked so well is that it was so unusual a punishment. Thus as a rule one should not do it, and the exeptions should be well justified (and exeptional). Peter Brought to you by Super Global Mega Corp .com