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From: gmack@denelvx.UUCP (Gregg Mackenzie)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Rough times (Re: net.personalities)
Message-ID: <138@denelvx.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 16-Sep-85 03:12:24 EDT
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Posted: Mon Sep 16 03:12:24 1985
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GREG WOODS:
> > And then, let us say that you still go ahead and derange your life. Move
> > away from where you were.
> > 
> > What happens when you fall out of love? 
> 
>   After making that big a commitment, why would you want to do that? And if
> you weren't willing to suffer through a few rough (even very rough) times 
> (often experienced as "falling out of love"), then why make the commitment
> in the first place? Making the assumption that it will fail is almost sure 
> to *create* failure.  Sounds like a very self-defeating attitude to me.

Greg, your comments about falling out of love brought something to mind.  In
several of my past love affairs, I've found that, every now and then, I go
through a period of time where I absolutely cannot stand to be around the
person that I'm supposed to be madly in love with.  

The feeling lasts from a day or two, up to two or three weeks.  Usually it
is triggered by some piddley-ass thing that normally wouldn't bother me, but
for some reason, it just hits me wrong at the time.  Then, before I know it,
I'm picking out all the little things about her that bother me and it builds
almost to the point of hatred.  This all takes place silently, so she starts
to wonder why I seem to be avoiding her, what's happened to "us", etc.  It's
a sort of "falling out of love" feeling, but down inside I know I'm still in
love with her.  Eventually, the feeling passes and everything returns to
normal.

It seems that I have reached this point in every relationship I've had.  Some
have ended there, some have continued on.  It has happened more than once in
a relationship, but not frequently (maybe once every 18-24 months).  I have 
also experienced a similar feeling with family members. 

Does anyone have any idea what the hell I'm talking about?

Gregg Mackenzie
denelcor!gmack


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