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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High)
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Subject: Re: LDRs To Move or Not to Move
Message-ID: <3045@ut-sally.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 29-Sep-85 14:27:05 EDT
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Posted: Sun Sep 29 14:27:05 1985
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In article <1494@uwmacc.UUCP> oyster@uwmacc.UUCP (Vicious Oyster) writes:

>   Sounds good in theory, but here in the real world (:-) there are many
>more factors that enter into it.  It has been intimated that this will be
>a "first job" situation.  Can one afford to risk having a track record
>consisting of "I took that job because I following some guy I wasn't sure
>about, and now, 6 months later, I'm looking for another job?"  If *I* were
>a personnel director, I would doubt the stability of the applicant.

Hmmmm.  Funny--*I* was just hired because I can do the work
they need done.  I guess our personnel director must be
slipping up somewhere. . .:-)

>   Other factors are financial responsibility and overall happiness in the
>place that you're going.  Would you live there and/or work for that company
>at that salary if you *weren't* following somebody?  

It all depends on what is most important to you--your
job or your relationship.  There's nothing wrong with
putting either one above the other, as long as you're
clear on what you're doing.

I've discovered another law of relationships, after
talking with friends, which I hereby submit as the
second Pooh's Law:

  When your love life is great, none of your other problems
  seem to be as bad; when your love life is lousy, ALL your
  problems seem to be much worse.

>   I personally feel that establishing a career 
>is more important than
>establishing a relationship.  However, once one has had a chance to 
>establish that career, thereby helping to provide for oneself regardless
>of emotional entanglement, the risk involved in matters such as these
>is much more acceptable.

Remind me not to ask you out until you get that raise, then. . .:-)

Seriously, I'd like to see a show of hands on a slightly different
topic.  How many people out there have left a relationship
to follow a job?

>   Then again, what opinion would you expect from somebody with both an
>established career *and* an established relationship? (;-)

Ah HA!  I knew it.  This guy's a ringer. :-)

Pooh

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Thank you, my gallant little prince of baloney.


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