Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ut-sally.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!gatech!ut-sally!pooh From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Nominally single???? Message-ID: <3072@ut-sally.UUCP> Date: Tue, 1-Oct-85 20:26:34 EDT Article-I.D.: ut-sally.3072 Posted: Tue Oct 1 20:26:34 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 4-Oct-85 03:57:38 EDT References: <285@whuts.UUCP> <533@oakhill.UUCP> <286@whuts.UUCP> <1919@reed.UUCP> <158@aplvax.UUCP> <431@rti-sel.UUCP> Reply-To: pooh@sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High) Distribution: net Organization: U. Texas CS Dept., Austin, Texas Lines: 58 In article <431@rti-sel.UUCP> wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) writes: >That's why I never, never talk to other people or let them into my >life! And as for self-indulgence, why, I'll show you self-indulgence, >buddih: I'm going to go out and buy a lobster dinner and eat it ALL BY >MYSELF and not even invite anyone to share it with me! So THERE! >(Oh, and by the way, :-) Wow. I guess you showed us, boy howdy! Just for that, I'm going to go home and eat my McDonald's hamburger all by myself too. (Some of us aren't very good at being bachelorettes yet. :-) >No one is ready for a sustained and giving relationship with another >person until he is happy with his own life and likes and respects >himself as a person. Or in other words, you're not ready to live with anyone else until you've lived alone enough. Wait a minute. . .that doesn't sound right. How do you learn to live with someone except by doing it? Once you learn not to need anyone else, how do you learn to let them in again? It seems to me that there's more required than just being able to get along with yourself--I know LOTS of people who can do that just fine; it's learning to give and take that they fail at. And THAT can only be learned with practice. >many live dissatisfied after the >initial sexual glow wears off; many more flit from relationship to >relationship searching for a One True Love that is a grand lie foisted >on us by a thousand-year-old European romantic tradition and mass >media that are as obsessed with selling True Love as with selling Sex >(The long sad history of the True Love myth will have to await another >posting). The relationships that last are the result of plain old hard >work and dedication, folks, with a small element of luck thrown in. >There's nothing magical about sex OR love. Yow! can you say "cynicism"? I'm sorry if you are as disillusioned as you appear, Bill, because I can still find some magic out there in places. It's not something that you can depend on; it's fleeting, like a butterfly. But you can still find it. >Like, wow, you've >been living by yourself for five years now; you'd better find a >housemate or SO soon, or you'll become too INTOLERANT and SELF-INDULGENT >to ever do it again! Naaah--you just have to start feeling like you'd like to have someone share the mortgage. . .:-) Pooh topaz!unipress!pooh unipress!pooh@topaz.ARPA Thank you, my gallant little prince of baloney. Brought to you by Super Global Mega Corp .com